What Women Want in a Cock and Why Men Are so Obsessed with Their Own Appendage

Let’s start with the first shall we!

As a poly woman get asked this a lot online…

I find it especially entertaining when these questions come from men who aren’t looking to date me but just see me as a “safe space” to explore their curiosities. I still can’t quite figure that one out…

So, what do we women really want in your magnificent erection?

Honestly? It all boils down to personal preference.

Some women shy away from the idea of being stretched—pain is not the mood we’re aiming for! For those lovely ladies, a sweet 4.5 to 5.5 inches feels just right—nothing too overwhelming, just a delightful starter that gets the juices flowing!

Others? Oh, they revel in the feeling of fullness and the pleasure of a big, fat, girthy cock. You may call those ladies “size queens” 😉 and they will make you feel new highs, revelling in their insatiable appetites!!

Then there’s the fun twist: some women can’t feel thinner ones, it all comes down to how their bodies align with your shape. Are you packing a chode? Well, step right up—those beauties have their own fan club!

Let’s not forget this left wanting with long, sleek options—it all comes down to how long their cervix is… these ladies crave a slender touch

I would be remiss if I didn’t mention bedroom etiquette here… let’s talk about lube, darling. Some women need it, while others can go just fine without.

If you want to be the kind of guy she remembers—not just for your looks but for your thoughtfulness— always be that guy who brings lube and offers it freely. No one wants to feel self-conscious when things heat up! On the other hand, believe it or not, there are women who practically soak the bed, enjoying the extra friction that ribbed condoms provide as it drys up some of the soak and simply feels heavenly.

So yes bring more than one type of condom dear… pro tip any woman would be pleaseantly surprised if you make up a little play bag just for her💋 (emphasis you made it just for her)

• More than one type of condom

• Bullet or rabbit ears for clit stim (honestly it’s about €15/£ in Boots or Ann Summers, even a ONS is worth the effort)

• Lube, water based is usually safest for allergies and using with toys 😉

• Battery LED candles… OR fairy lights (can’t have real candles in a hotel/car) lads dealz/poundland 4 x €1.50/£1 it’s the little things 😂

• Water and chocolate (her fav snack for after)

It’s not a very long list but your welcome.

Now, onto our second spicy question: why do men care so much about their own penis?

Interestingly, it’s not just about what you see when you peek in the mirror. It goes much deeper, touching on self-esteem and how you believe you’re perceived. There’s a whole psychological cocktail at play here, darling.💅🏻

Let’s chat about that perception thing, shall we? For some perplexing reason—right or wrong—men seem to think that their penis size could be the dealbreaker in matters of the heart. I find this utterly bonkers!

Honey, let me make something crystal clear: you don’t need to be a walking myth. I just need you to be hard! Softness? well, let's just say it leaves a lot to be desired, I can’t do anything with it and you’re probably going to trigger my anxiety and insecurities. But when we’re both turned on and ready? Oh, it’s go-time!

Now, let’s clear the air on the O—or rather, the fear you lot have about no O.

As a woman who writes about sex, I consider it my duty to make this point crystal clear: the size of a penis has nothing to do with a woman reaching the Big O.

It really does come down to the effort, skill, intimacy and in some cases intensity.

You can’t go blaming your size and shape here buddy… get a masturbator and level up 😜

STOP CONFUSING PORN WITH REALITY!

Honestly, I’ve met a surprising number of men consumed by a BBC obsession or feeling insecure about their own size, fueled by the unrealistic depictions in porn.

I’ve met men who want to watch their men take a BBC… and men who now can’t get hard because they feel inferior because they watch too much porn and feel they’re not satisfying a woman!

Sure, a big beautiful cock can be a delight, but I’ve got a whole treasure trove of dildos—ranging from pocket-sized to tentacle-inspired. Are you really going to feel jealous of my toys?

I say talk to your partners… Let’s not forget, porn isn’t real life, darling.

And isn’t that a blessing?

Picture this: if I answered the door to greet the pizza guy and he showed up with a box featuring a hole for his cock, I can assure you I wouldn’t be going full Lorena Bobbitt on him… well, probably not, anyway…

I don’t think... maybe… moving on!

The final reason men think there’s a penis “standard/goal”

Let’s get real—men just don’t see many actual penises in the wild, do they?

Even in a world gradually becoming more accepting of LGBTQ+ folks, we still live in a society where straight men can’t casually admire another guy’s penis without worrying about their reputation.

Hey, gentlemen—take note: peeking at another man’s member doesn’t make you gay!

There’s nothing wrong with indulging in a little curiosity—whether it’s about yourself or someone else.

Trust me, most peni with the hood up look like that adorable sidekick mole from Kim Possible, and with the hood off, it’s like a little mushroom character out of a retro video game!

So, let’s embrace the flirtation and the delightful dance of attraction. Understanding what women really crave and navigating those quirky male insecurities will lead to richer connections—both in and out of the bedroom. So, who’s ready to play and explore the night away? 💋✨